mentally tired

juggling work and wedding planning ain't the best combo. add to that lack of sleep, lack of exercise and a significant decrease in exercise and i am basically a fatigued overworked under-exercised bride to be.

its at this point that i feel i just wanna get done and over with the wedding so i can jetset off with the husband for the honeymoon. like, i cant really be bothered if my wallpaper doesnt contain the exact shade as my curtains and i don't really care if my wedding invitations will be turquoise with pink flowers or vice versa.

i almost didnt care that my baju bersanding wasnt as amazing as i expected.

speaking of which..

i had my first fitting yesterday and ZOMAIGAWD i was so tired. i was running errand after errand (only 2 pulang) after work, which i left only at about 6.30pm. so my fitting started at 8pm and i hadnt even been home yet.

when she pulled out the baju, i was like 'hey thats nice!' but that was it. just 'nice'. no butterflies or strong heartgrip or huge ear to ear grin like i had when i first saw my nikah dress.

sad to say, i didnt have the Moment with my baju bersanding.

count in how my fiance said 'mcm baju you biasa2x saja..'. hmmph. men. and yes before you guys judge me, i allowed my fiance to see me in the baju bersanding because.. well, what the hell right? he hasnt and wont see the akad nikah dress and thats what really matters. plus, he's not the imaginative type.. just seeing me in the dress w/o the full regalia of veil and tiara etc doesnt do much harm. i'm sure i can still wow him on the day anyhow.

back to the non-Momental baju fitting. i got my cousin/bridesmaid to come in for the fitting as well and thank god she was there because i was so tired (also, i could barely breathe with the corset i had on and i was hungry) that i couldnt be bothered to give the baju the proper bashing it needs. cousin bridesmaid did me a favour by saying all the things i send her via telepathy.

thats a tip for you. choose bridesmaids who can receive your telepathic messages. totally saves you the effort!

in fact, if i remember correctly, i wanst even sending her any telepathic msgs. i think she can just read my mind.

anyhow, the next fitting is scheduled for tomorrow. tomorrow is also my first day for kursus nikah. heyyy im a grown up! hehe

lets hope after alterations, i'll have my Moment with the baju.

much love,
Rabi'a xoxo

121

1 month, 2 weeks, 1 day to go.

121 is also our anniversary =D 5 years this year!

anyhow, Friday was errands marathon day and i'm happy to report that most of the things have been done. i say 'most' because that day i got a call from Lauren Boutique to say that Trudie was down with the flu and can we move the fitting to Monday? (which is today..)

so that particular errand has been moved to today. will also be picking up my corset from Lili's today because i didnt see the point of picking up the corset since i wasnt going to go for fitting anyway.

so Friday, i got my aunt to come with me on running errands, partly because i didnt wanna go alone and also because i havent seen her in yonks.

Friday was Productive with a capital P. okay, so i actually forgot to meet up with rez but other than that, things on the previous post have been settled.

case 1: kain lapis for flower girls bought. now to divide kain/text parents so they can start making 'em into dresses.

case 2: have sent my draft jemputan and decided on colour scheme. will be picking up the dummy invite later and once approved by daddy-o, i can proceed with printing that in masses.

case 3: HASKA. after what took forever, me and aunt (actually, more like aunt. nda menyasal membawa her because she really takes time to choose ie ensuring satisfaction hehehe) finally decided on a colour scheme, curtains, wallpaper and kain for my window seat. all under 2hrs.

also, i managed to buy kain for to be made into a skirt, to go along with a top i made at Aaliah Asmara (which is my 3rd baju with them, to be worn next week at my fiance's sister's wedding).

kain which i prompt sent to Lauren because i thought she (Trudie) was playing truant with the flu and actually hadnt finished my baju. turns out, she was there but she did look sick. i had a look at my baju bersanding and to be fair, it was ready for fitting; it was just missing sleeves hee. so today i will be fitting it on with sleeves and hopefully it'll be done by the end of the week.

46days to go!!!

much love,
rabi'a xoxo

a little under 2 months to go

And what have i done since the last post?

design for baju bersanding all set and in process to becoming a reality!! its an ongoing/changing design tho, Trudie said 'well pin up lace or remove as we go along. whatever is comfortable'.

read: i want to see how much i can charge you.

hahaha.

also, part 2 of our honeymoon has been dealt with =) part 1 is hopefully not such a big deal cause its a frequently visited country but part 2 was a real headache because resorts keep getting fully booked or the room i wanted wasnt available during the dates i want. definitely glad that that part is out of the way!

Tomorrow is errands marathon day because theres at least 5 to do. i'll be running errands alone because all my bridesmaids are unavailable (tip: please dont make last minute plans because your bridesmaids have a life too). boo hoo =(

first stop: ezy printing! yes i finally finally finished the draft jemputan!
second pitstop: HASKA. hee they called up my dad to say i havent chosen the fabric for my curtains and which wallpaper i wanted. lol sampai org kadai pulang menagih me to finish up my room.
third stop: first fitting at Lauren. wheee. oh before that i need to stop by at lili's lingerie to get a corset i booked. amazing is that i can lose 2 frickin' inches from my waist just by wearing it.
final stop: meet up rezzykins somewhere to pay him money to be my videographer. yes i hired an amaaayzzzing videographer!

and in between, i need to settle my flower girls' dresses. i have yet to get them kain lapis for their lace and so tomorrow is que sera sera day. if i find the right colour/material, im just gonna buy it and hope they remember what i did when they become rich one day muahahaha.

Also, i have normal errands to run like go for face-threading and maybe a pedicure.

i know i know im suppose to save money but my face is hairy and my feet are ugly. threading and pedicures are an investment.

much love,
Rabi'a xoxo

and the countdown begins!

my wedding, my way.

forgive me, but i have always been headstrong, stubborn, loves the spotlight, spoilt and did i mention stubborn?

anyway, being a bride to be allows me to be all of the above, without a conscience hehe. i can throw bitch fits (ie be a bridezilla), make people do things my way or the highway and not have to feel guilty for the pleasure of knowing that on my big day, all the attention will be on me, me, me!

i know people say a wedding needs a bride & groom. banar plg.. but when u get down to it, do u ever actually bother checking out the groom's shoes? what you really look for is what the bride is wearing, her make up, her shoes, her accessories. so really, a bride has the license to go all out =D

anyhoo, i've had my share of bridezilla-ing tho i'm a bit complacent at the moment. all thats left to do is to get down with my designer at Lauren (i will make sure we come to a final design this sunday!!) and uruskan my honeymoon ie tickets and hotel.

just finished finalising my jemputan draft this evening, too. took me and parents 2 nites, over an hour each nite. believe me, my brothers are lucky i'm getting married before them. i doubt they'd want to sit down and go through each name and spelling and order of the wakil berharap names. at least now they can just nick the list off of me hehe.

cant believe its less than two months now! actually, i've picked up my baju nikah and baju berambil-ambilan on tuesday! i feel like putting it on whenever i open my closet and see the hanger bag! hee.

thats all for updates, to dearest kaka amal, hows renal?

much love,
Rabi'a xoxo

lotsa green and orange

remember how i said i have a colour coded list? its like a traffic light system, green means fully paid, orange (because yellow doesn't stand out against white) means deposit paid and red means "haven't paid but need to look into asap".

happy to say that at this point, just over 2 months to go, there are lots of green and orange on the list. more in orange but certain things i prefer not to pay full until i get the items.. like pelamin or flowers.

the greens are mostly clothing or hantaran. theres a few minor decisions that i haven't made up my mind yet.. like do i need a tiara for my nikah and the exact style for my baju bersanding. then theres the guest list. i havent even started printing names.. putting down names of colleagues does not count.

but alhamdulillah, i can count whats left to do on TWO hands! all the doorgifts for the events are being managed by my parents and they've more or less figured out what to give for each event. i have yet to finalise the draft for my invitation because we're a bit unsure as to who should and should not be included in the 'wakil berharap' list.. but colour scheme for invitations and gifts are finalised so that one worry off the list. also, dates for all the events have been confirmed and we've started wrapping the gifts for orang membadaki. whee~

actually, we haven't touched on catering. i mean, food for bersanding is more or less figured out 'cause it comes with the place w'ere renting, whats left is to figure out what food to serve, which means food tasting! but for berbedak and nikah.. its pretty much nothing. my mum keeps mentioning this one particular caterer and my dad just keeps saying what kind of tent he wants for the day.

but then, i'll worry about that once my parents decide on which caterer to use.

now the bridal room. i've bought the bedding which i'll be using, also have decided on what colour/material to be used for curtains. we're leaving for Tutong tonite and the ppl from Haska which be coming over to measure up the windows and also the walls for wallpaper. to be honest, i havent really decided on using wallpaper or whether i'd just paint over the pink, but mum mentioned that i can get my dad to pay for the wallpaper as a wedding gift so thats one idea =)

now, have i left out anything? can't really think of anything now. plus tomorrow will be my first day back to work after a long luxurious 2 weeks holiday and i'm a bit nervous because i havent been able to check my emails regularly.. i just hope i haven't missed out much.

oh one thing not wedding related but definitely a must is the honeymoon! you know what i realise? as someone who is getting married in 2 months time, i get people asking hows the preps etc etc. but i notice this stark difference between what the men and women ask.

the women ask have i got a make up artist. where will i be doing the invitations. where am i renting the pelamin.

the men ask where will we be having our honeymoon -.-

i mean, i don't know if thats the general consensus or it just so happens that the men friends in my life are bold enough to ask that question. bear in mind that these men are my fiance's friends. the question was posed to us 3 times in a day.

anyhoo, that aside, everything seems to be smooth sailing, alhamdulillah.

by next post, maybe i'd have wrapped all the berbedak gifts and have something done to my room.

much love,
rabi'a xoxo

gorgeous songket

i think i should blog more often. the more i say a certain thing needs to be done, voila esuknya ada tia hehe.

like how in the last last post i said i cudnt find a matching tudong, found it the next day. the last post, how i said the songket for my skirt wasnt ready and just the very next day my mum told me she's already picked it up. ran downstairs to see it and it is as gorgeous as can be.

hee now all thats left to do about the bersanding outfit is to make it into wearable pieces! i've texted Trudie (of Lauren boutique in kiulap) who's currently in Singapore. she said she'll be back by the 26th(which is a saturday) so i made an appointment with her the very next day. can't dilly dally anymore.

cant wait to see the final product! also, i made another top at Aaliah Asmara just because. hehe. theres tons of weddings to go to this year so i need to to look my best. gotta represent the husband. hehe.

much love,
rabi'a xoxo

i spoke too soon.

only yesterday i complained about the difficulties of finding the right shade of [the colour i'm wearing for bersanding] and today alhamdulillah i found the right colour!

yayyyy much! yesterday i went to hokko kiarong to look for the shade so today i thought i'd give a try at the kiulap branch. not only do they have the most perfect colour in kain kasa rubia, they also had a gorgeous net material in the utmost perfect matching gorgeous shade, with sparkles!

hello long-enough-for-3-bridesmaids-to-carry veil!

hehe. essentially my outfit for bersanding is about 90% percent ready, the 10% being tailoring and also the songket for my skirt, which is still on the handloom (i believe).

so in terms of timeframe, its looking good.

an issue i need to worry about tho, is my room. still no curtains, no new cadar, no new paint/wallpaper. i changed my mind again abt the colour scheme because my floor is a peachy/pink shade.. so that leaves me with all pastel colours of the rainbow.

i believe if i didnt do art for A levels, i'd just have the basic primary colours to look to but as it is, when i say i want 'cream', there light gold, latte, taupe, rose, blush, ivory.

other than 'the room', i'm happy to say i'm pretty much done with the checklist. of course theres still deciding on a pelamin design and the colour scheme for my invites, but i can leave that until march =D

much love,
be'ah xoxo