friendster status

i was just browsing through frenster and was viewing a friend's recently updated profile. friend is now 'in a relationship' after being single for about 4 months. i think this is friend's 3rd time being 'in a relationship' since friend added me on friendster a year ago. the first two relationships were 'long-term'. yes, this friend will remain anonymous coz this is not a personal lash.

its about common sense and logic and pure sanity and maybe taking a REALISTIC view on love. one of friend's photo caption reads 'madly in love.. finally!' and i cant help thinking to myself 'dont u mean "madly in love.. again?"'

so this is another issue on friendster that isnt really addressed properly. we keep lashing out on testimonials that arent really testimonials, having different acounts but with the same friends (which reminds me, said friend has two accounts and im on both friends list) and the fake trying-to-get-attention-but-nobody-really-calls-u-that name. i FREAKIN' have a problem with people's status issues!

for one thing, i see ppl who say 'its complicated' are ppl in denial or ppl who are just getting to know their beaus. hello? if ur getting to know ur beau, ur still damn single la! its as simple as getting married- if ur not hitched, ur single right? or at least in a relationship. nobody says their status is 'complicated' at the eve of their wedding night. unless of course, it REALLY is complicated, and thats not good.

so let me run thru with what 'its complicated' reli is. for one thing, the dictionary defines complicated as

1. To make or become complex or perplexing.
2. To twist or become twisted together.
3. composed of elaborately interconnected parts; complex: complicated apparatus for measuring brain functions.
4. difficult to analyze, understand, explain, etc.: a complicated problem.

so unless ur status falls under any of the definitions above, dont put 'its complicated'. no shame in being single, i say. and i know most of u guys will relate to number 4. so good for u guys who knw the real meaning. but for those people who, as we say, are 'in process', jgntah kan buat 'its complicated' because its not.

and speaking of which, its amazing how many people my age are married. heck, even ppl younger than me, little 15-yr-olds are married. that is, if ur gullible enough to believe their status on frenster.

hello freakin world! i know u guys are in love, but in love does not, i repeat, does NOT equal being married. yes, u feel like u guys are married, u guys have been together since the day of adam and eve, but for f**ks sake, until u have a ring on ur finger, u are not married! so now lets check out what 'married' means in the dictionary:

1. united in wedlock
2. joined in matrimony

so have u guys exchanged any vows lately? no.. well.. then ur just 'in a relationship' honey, no matter how much in love u are. try getting married for a start to even consider using that 'married' status. oh, what was that? 'hubby; stil in skool? WHAT 'hubby'? oh, u mean BOYFRIEND!

and this married issue irks me more nowadays becoz i actually do have more than a couple of actual-exchanged-vows-signed-certificate-in-front-of-the-imam married frens, so when a long lost fren adds me and their status is 'married' i think 'congratulations!' only to be fooled again. look, im happy that my frens are in love but please use the status appropriately so as to not confuse ppl like me? please and thank u!

anyhow, im a bit off track. let get back to people such as said friend. friend is in love finally/again (however u may see it). all i can say is, ur confusing ppl like me again. when ur single, bukan main saying stuff like 'oh im done with love', 'i dont believe in lov', 'all guys suck' etc etc. skali sudah in love 'oooh i found the one' or 'i love u forever'. this last one irks me especially becoz its like, ur forever somehow doesnt match with mine. okay i wont go thru the dictionary again, but isnt forever like, forever? then why is it that u break up, rant off him and all jerks of the world, then find another guy and say 'i'll love u forever', again?

ppl, i know u should love with all ur heart and i know its nice to love and be loved in return. heck, one of my fave quotes is 'the greatest gift in the world is to love and be loved in return'...

but dont take the word 'forever', lightly. and i know u feel all high (with love) with ur boyfren but when u feel the same with ALL ur boyfrens stop and think. dont u think love's a special feeling for ONE special particular someone? then why are u feeling the same kind of love-high with ALL ur boyfrens? oh yea. maybe its called 'infatuation' or even 'puppy-love'. look up the dictionary urself this time :p

i say true love is when u get thru shitloads of hell and still manage to stay together and feel the same way as the first day u got together. there is no 'the honeymoon stage is over' phase. that honeymoon stage should last throughout ur whole relationship. only THEN can u say ur truly madly deeply in love.. but dont promise forever if u have even the slightest sliver of a doubt of keeping that promise. im not saying dont say 'i love u', but just dont take 'forever' lightly. and i knw the very ppl who say 'i love u forever' are the very ppl who had their hearts broken mercilessly. so dont keep the cycle going by breaking innocent passerbys' hearts.

oh shizzle. haha i just realised my last paragraph was so not a realistic view and have therefore contradicted myself. hey, i can be a realist and a dreamer. its called optimist ;)