"no matter how head over heels your guy is during the initial honeymoon period of the relationship, it doesn't mean he's ready to commit [to marrying you].
A man might fall in love, which requires the capacity to idealize. this means thinking and feeling like his girlfren and the relationship are uniquely special, enabling him to ignore imperfections, which in turn, makes him feel valued and special.
Loving, on the other hand, involves connecting with the other person, understanding her, and wanting to be with her for who she is, not who he'd like her to be.
While it might be difficult to decipher the difference between the two, one clue is the test of time. faling in love happens early on in the relationship, when a couple barely knows each other's traits and quirks and once the initial love buzz is gone, a man who truly loves will stay while a man who was only in love, will bunk off.
Another major telltale sign of real love is selflessness and the ability to care. does your man make sacrifices for u? is he able to put your wants and needs before his? relationships are all about give and take, but love is more about giving"
-cosmo, august 07 issue
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That's the thing about selflessness. It's very subjective.
Too much selflessness inda jua bisai. I don't want a wussy push-over who can't assert his needs as a lifetime partner.
Ehehe. Just my dua-sen.
Hope your summer holidays went well. ^^
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